Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Writing Your Own Wedding Vows


Alex and I have decided that in addition to traditional vows, we will also be exchanging our own personal vows. 

This is not something I've always wanted to do or anything. I didn't grow up dreaming that I would one day be expressing my love for my one and only through some beautiful words at our wedding ceremony. I'm more of a, "let's get to the point" kind of girl. I do feel all those lovey-dovey, mushy-mushy feelings...believe me, I do! But I don't know how to express that in a non-gagging way. What else can I say except...I love you...and I always will...?

So I did what any modern, 21st century, young woman would do. I googled, "writing your own wedding vows." And let me tell you, there is a plethora of information out there! And I have read through most of it. Here's a site with a nice step-by-step guide to personalizing your vows. And another site with some great tips. And here are some samples in case you need a little push.

So after much research...I'm still at a loss. I guess writing the vows won't be so hard. After all, I love Alex like I've never loved before and I could tell you all the reasons why...and I could tell you how much I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him...living together, eating together, watching movies together, sleeping together, creating together, ministering together, just being together... 

The part that makes me most nervous is actually SAYING these vows in front of [maybe] a couple hundred people...and not messing up! Even if I read the vows (which I will, believe you me) I'm likely to stumble and stammer. Pubic speaking gives me the "willies." Whatever that is... I suppose I shouldn't have dropped that class when I was in college...

6 comments:

Merari said...

If you feel too nervous to say it, how about writing them and the having someone sing it to him?

"I can't find the words to express just how much i love and appreciate you, so i asked for some help.." (cue singer)

no? too gay?
sigh... I try.

Brigitte said...

Write them on your hand! ;)
lol jk.
They will come out perfect I'm sure.
I'm not sure I'm as brave as you.

Marcy said...

Hey Kristel,
First, wanted to let you know i sent you a message on your myspace about our rsvp to your wedding. so please read it. sorry for doing it that way.

And second, just let your heart speak and trust me you won't ever notice the people around you. You will be so focused on Alex, that well, screw whose around. :) It's you, alex, and God. Congrats again!

Jescel said...

yes, i can understand how you are feeling coz you've always been a private kind of person. but marcy is right.. on the day itself, you will forget all those people around you because it'll be just alex and you in front of GOD saying those vows. trust me.. you can do it!

Jescel said...

also, the most touching words are really those coming from the heart...

gurlwithkaleidescopeeyes said...

I could say something really sappy here, but that would be against character for me lol instead i'll just tell you to go ahead and cry if you get nervous (i did!) and that "pubic" speaking gives lots of people the willies LMAO

sorry, I had to point that out. I had a little chuckle reading this at work during an otherwise sucks day so thanks for cheering me up, albeit inadvertantly =)